tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post2174221821934951838..comments2023-12-21T17:45:14.194+00:00Comments on HOM...HOM...HOM....: Until Now.Home Office Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18248456622235889204noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-7910125560889793322009-11-24T07:07:27.709+00:002009-11-24T07:07:27.709+00:00Thanks Nicola, More than just a mother, Grit and J...Thanks Nicola, More than just a mother, Grit and Jacqui for the suggestions and support (and Jacqui, you'd never get me bungi-jumping!) The phase seems to have passed. He's still no saint but he's far less of a little devil. Fingers crossed it lasts!Home Office Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248456622235889204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-15879276631109150212009-11-23T22:34:09.515+00:002009-11-23T22:34:09.515+00:00Hi there! I've just stumbled across your blog....Hi there! I've just stumbled across your blog. Sorry to hear your little one is giving you grief - but I'm more blown away by your recent sea adventures!!!! What a brave, amazing experience! Makes my bungy jump (many moons ago, and well before motherhood) seem positively mundane. Note to self: do something challenging and exciting - soon!!!Jacqui Paterson https://www.blogger.com/profile/17315907330389903524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-61731072953537112442009-11-18T22:00:56.873+00:002009-11-18T22:00:56.873+00:00sympathies! dh is away for weeks on end, and when ...sympathies! dh is away for weeks on end, and when he comes home, the kids totally ignore him, then at some point go beserk, and in fewer words tell him he's no help, so what is he for. that's usually not an ingredient for a happy family moment! <br /><br />i don't know whether this will help, but i developed an exchange system for all sweets: the kids collected e-numbered crap they were given in a jar and then i exchanged x number of sweets with a simple and doable treat (like going out alone with a parent - that's a big deal in our house!).Grithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14022216340604423686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-61540847010120183512009-11-18T20:03:45.879+00:002009-11-18T20:03:45.879+00:00Gosh how difficult for you. I know how tricky my ...Gosh how difficult for you. I know how tricky my kids are for me when I don't see them for a couple of days because of shifts, so I can't imagine the impact 6 weeks will have had. Fortunately - as you know - kids bounce back quickly and this will be just a phase you'll all move through. Plus it may have happened without you even going away - kids are like that!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-47549880318049091062009-11-18T03:26:12.886+00:002009-11-18T03:26:12.886+00:00Poor you. Johnny Drama definitely has similar mom...Poor you. Johnny Drama definitely has similar moments. Since starting school he has taken to shouting in my face "I hate you - I just hate you!" when told no to sweets or tv or a new toy etc. He will also come up and just thump me. Initially I got crazy mad and would have an extreme shouty reaction. Which I guess just served to encourage him to be even more extreme himself. In the past 2 weeks I have managed to be icily calm when dealing with him. The temper tantrums haven't ceased but he does appear to be calming so much quicker - and he realises that I am deadly serious in not allowing him to get away with this behaviour, even without the shouting and physically lifting and throwing him onto the naughty step.<br /><br />I hope things settle down soon. I keep telling myself this is just a phase and that I just need to convince him that I am confident in handling it - even when I don't feel that I have a clue. Best of luck xxNicolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07017352687163694581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-34910987663624897942009-11-17T13:53:27.046+00:002009-11-17T13:53:27.046+00:00Nappy Valley - he had forgotten all about it this ...Nappy Valley - he had forgotten all about it this morning. But did wake up at 5.30 very hungry!<br /><br />katyboo - I think I need Tallulah to come and sort my son out. I think she'll manage him brilliantly<br /><br />Ali - I'm sure it is part of it - him testing me. But he seems to be testing everyone else too. Am really hoping it's a phase.<br /><br />Anonymous - thanks for hte link. I need to go reread my Raising Boys book by Biddulph - I read it a few years ago but I need to revisit it<br /><br />ThatGirl - I can't count all the times I've threatened something and then regretted it because I had to follow through and it ended up being far more work for me than punishment for them.Home Office Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18248456622235889204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-24906718512178188322009-11-17T10:20:43.039+00:002009-11-17T10:20:43.039+00:00Eeek... what a day! I sympathise as we've had ...Eeek... what a day! I sympathise as we've had days a bit like that with SC. Can't answer on the boy bit as have no experience myself but my friends little boy (same age) is going through the same at the moment. She too wants to give him away! Hang in there and stick to your punishments... I admit that thats the thing I find hardest to do with SC so I have to be careful what I threaten her with!TheOnlineStylisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13993875451086499475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-76969665755315568862009-11-17T07:16:10.598+00:002009-11-17T07:16:10.598+00:00OK, so perhaps not your type of web-site, but chec...OK, so perhaps not your type of web-site, but check out http://www.christianitytoday.com/momsense/2001/mayjun/9.25.html<br /><br />It has to do with a testosterone surge that some 4 year old boys tend to have.<br /><br />Good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-3837355416966388192009-11-16T23:28:31.153+00:002009-11-16T23:28:31.153+00:00Ok, I am in no way trying to suggest that you are ...Ok, I am in no way trying to suggest that you are responsible but is there a chance that he's testing? A period of absence by a parent is a pretty significant event in the life of a 4yo. Is it possible he's "testing" the important adults in his life to see how constant they are? You know, "How much will I have to push before you leave?" kinda thing. Just what popped into my mind when I read this. I know that even if I am having a bad day with my pelvis that causes me to be a bit less active it affects my 4yo's behaviour.<br /><br />Anyway, I hope he's feeling more himself soon!alihttp://callapippertree.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-7821308909450805922009-11-16T23:27:55.016+00:002009-11-16T23:27:55.016+00:00I don't know about four year old boys yet, but...I don't know about four year old boys yet, but I do know that sounds like classic Tallulah style behaviour when she is unnerved. I usually resort to dire punishments and lots of praise in equal measure. It will pass. Hopefully soon.xkatyboo1https://www.blogger.com/profile/00182125401184061843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-26458203130783389582009-11-16T21:49:47.123+00:002009-11-16T21:49:47.123+00:00You poor thing, you have had a day of it.
The ans...You poor thing, you have had a day of it.<br /><br />The answer is yes, other four year old boys can be like that sometimes - Littleboy 1 can be rude, naughty and difficult, especially over food. During one particularly bad supper time recently I was so furious I shut him outside the back door in the cold because he had a) thrown his food on the floor and b) refused to apologise. He can also act like a moody teenager sometimes. And then sometimes he is a perfect angel, too.<br /><br />I don't know what the answer is (other than calling Supernanny). You sound as if you dealt with it well, though, and if mine are anything to go by, he'll have forgotten it all again in the morning...nappy valley girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10788949037047084412noreply@blogger.com