tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post8921690753804822525..comments2023-12-21T17:45:14.194+00:00Comments on HOM...HOM...HOM....: Love by a thousand cuts - parenting teensHome Office Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18248456622235889204noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-80043320523165438242017-11-24T11:06:06.742+00:002017-11-24T11:06:06.742+00:00Hell, this is tough. What a complete nightmare for...Hell, this is tough. What a complete nightmare for you to live through. I get a lot of what you mean - I've got 10 and a 12 yr old boys so we're not quite there yet but we have our own traumas - at times its continuous hideous behaviour but they do at least apologise to me from time to time and they do talk to me about some things.<br />I'm no professional but from a purely mum perspective this is what I'd do...<br />1) Try and make the atmosphere in the house happier - bake so the house is filled with lovely smells, put cheerful music on sometimes, invite friends over for a meal<br />2) Get him out doing something physical with his friends - get his dad/ uncle/ grandad/ older cousin / ones of his friend's dads to take them - mountain biking at the Lookout Bracknell / kayaking / Go Ape/? <br />3) Have a tech detox for the whole family at the weekend, not as a punishment but as a way to be healthier. If you can't manage a whole weekend, work out what hours you could manage. Could you include the TV so he has to find something else to do?<br />4) Go away for an activity break somewhere with poor reception.<br />5) Have a very discreet word with his school to see if anything is bothering him and to enlist their help<br />6) Do something to lift your spirits<br />7) See your GP if things don't improve.<br />Hope things get better for you soon. Good luck.DebDooDahDaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-17857015015822988462017-09-29T16:20:56.783+01:002017-09-29T16:20:56.783+01:00Only just found this new post Melissa - like Clare...Only just found this new post Melissa - like Clare said, I really feel for you. My 12yo is quite immature so hasn't really turned into a teenager yet, but he does say "I don't know" to most questions. I really think he will thank you later for not letting him do as he pleases - he'll be glad he didn't have those mythical other parents who say yes to everything and don't quietly encourage him to become a decent human being. If it's any consolation, I hear similar tales from plenty of other friends, so you're not alone. <br />Lots of love and hugs xxxnappy valley girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10788949037047084412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2133786582796275869.post-47925611760644402732017-09-11T13:27:04.816+01:002017-09-11T13:27:04.816+01:00Oh god. I so feel for you. In many ways I'm ...Oh god. I so feel for you. In many ways I'm lucky; my oldest isn't challenging me quite as much but I recognise the signs and know that everything you mention in your post is headed towards me like an unstoppable train. Stick to your guns - I agree with every single one of the rules that you mention - but I agree, it takes time for our kids to fully appreciate the benefits of our parenting. If I'm honest, it wasn't until I had my own kids that I properly understood what my parents did for me!<br /><br />Potty Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04751869800592294891noreply@blogger.com